Be careful what you wish for!

In my last post I wrote about one of my experiences with eHarmony, so in an effort to be inclusive, this post will be about some of my experiences on the on-line dating service that claims to have led to more marriages than any other on-line dating service - Match.com!

Unlike eHarmony, Match.com allows its members to going on a "fishing expedition". You select your search criteria and then everyone that falls within those criteria pops up for you to look at. Strangely enough there are always some people who don't match the selection criteria that also pop up. Its almost as though the computer is testing to see if you are paying attention, or maybe the computer is suggesting it may have better judgement than you!

Now remember while you are "fishing" so are other Match.com members. So while you may be carefully selecting criteria, you have no real control over who is looking at your profile, which can result in some interesting situations.

My friends all know when asked what kind of man I am looking for, I often answer jokingly, a very old, very ill, very rich man! And honestly, I really am joking. But as they say, be careful what you wish for.

I received an email from Match.com informing me I had mail from another member. I quickly logged in and opened the email. It was from an 85 year old man. It was a lovely email, saying he knew he was outside of my stated age range but my profile had caught his eye and he thought we had a lot in common. He went on to say he was young for his age, but right now was not as active as he liked because he had just had hip replacement surgery! I hate to admit it, but I laughed for days about this. Not at him but at the situation and the universe.

So, there I had it, a very old, somewhat ill man, no idea about the very rich part, but two out of three of the things I said I was looking for. As my mother used to remind my brother and me - don't joke about serious things! Clearly the universe has a sense of humor.

I have to say,as I read this gentleman's profile, he did have one of the more interesting profiles I have read on Match.com, but I really couldn't see myself with someone my father's age. So, I wrote a very polite email saying thanks but no thanks, and seriously considered terminating my Match.com membership. But it would take much more to do that!